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is it too much to ask for a man to clean after himself?
is it too much to ask for a man to clean after himself?

I'm tired cleaning after my brother, I don't even ask for him to do laundry or take out the trash, just cleaning after himself when he eats. when I point out that some stains are harder to clean when he leaves them for days he gets angry and makes up excuses that they were there before.

Thing is he'd still complain about how I clean, for example not liking if I mix kitchen towels and laundry when washing em but he'll never do it himself, meaning he won't like to live in filth.
we are 23 and 25 and I do plan on moving out once I get a stable job but I just wanted to ask how do you deal with this behavior without taking it personally? and is there any explanation to this entitlement?
He works from home, I'm at home once a week and my only day off is spent on cleaning each time.

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is it too much to ask for a man to clean after himself?
is it too much to ask for a man to clean after himself?

I'm tired cleaning after my brother, I don't even ask for him to do laundry or take out the trash, just cleaning after himself when he eats. when I point out that some stains are harder to clean when he leaves them for days he gets angry and makes up excuses that they were there before.

Thing is he'd still complain about how I clean, for example not liking if I mix kitchen towels and laundry when washing em but he'll never do it himself, meaning he won't like to live in filth.
we are 23 and 25 and I do plan on moving out once I get a stable job but I just wanted to ask how do you deal with this behavior without taking it personally? and is there any explanation to this entitlement?
He works from home, I'm at home once a week and my only day off is spent on cleaning each time.