r/ftm

I'm a trans man but I'm also a huge feminist. I believe everyone should be able to take their shirt off when it is hot (or just if they'd feel more comfortable with it off) regardless of sex and gender. People act like it's a violation to see breasts (my grandmother acted like it was offensive to suggest she be forced to see someone's boobs) but don't feel the same about chests... As an example of how utterly ludicrous all this nonsense is, top surgery photos censor the nipple pre-surgery but don't afterwards, despite it being the same nipple.

I personally feel dysphoric about my breasts but I also feel dysphoric wearing a binder. I plan to attend a free the nipple event over the summer because of this. I was wondering how other trans men/masc individuals (or perhaps visiting trans women) felt surrounding exposed breasts from the trans perspective, as we are especially likely to see how socially constructed this whole thing is because of our place on both sides of the aisle.

Hello all,

I have a small friend group including my partner and they've all been incredibly supportive and have never misgendered me or made me feel not like a man

There is this one thing that is making me uncomfortable though and I'm finding it hard to articulate to them. Both me and the cis guy in our group gets jokingly called a twink sometimes. It's something that personally makes me uncomfortable but it's hard to say without being a downer, and I'm especially uncomfortable when sometimes I'm alone with my partner and they insist I'm a twink. I feel like all my "twink" features are just my feminine features that I can't help because I'm not on T yet. It's just killing me that I'd be bigger and a lot hairier and have a beard and everything and I'm missing all of that because I can't get access to HRT, and being described as a twink just reminds me of that. I'm trying hard to be myself but they keep pointing this stuff out. I've tried to tell them once or twice but they don't understand why I have a problem with it when it's a masculine term. That's true and I get that and believe me, I do not view being a twink as being lesser of a man, it's just not my personal transition goals and they know that. I've said many times I can't wait to get big and hairy on T and that's who I am inside. Idk, I just feel this is coming from a place of pointing out my feminine features that I really can't help right now and it makes me feel bad

Hello, coming here again curious if anyone else has had an issue with this. In my experience, whenever a cis woman has found out that I am a trans man, they suddenly get extremely weird and excited(?) to talk to me. I am talking weird as in talking about more feminine things that they have never talked about before or straight up misgendering me. I don't know how to handle it or discuss it with them since it feels genuinely like they do not understand it. This has happened so many times to me with only cis women and it is beginning to really press me. I might just not be used to this because I have almost only had cis male friends and usually when it comes up that I am trans with a cis dude its like oh wtf really and then we move on. Cis men will never bring it up again and treat me as normal and I am comfortable around them. I am masculine presenting and passing but whenever I tell specifically a cisgender woman that I am trans this always becomes a new thing. With cis women its like they make it a mission to treat me as feminine as possible. It does not matter if I have presented hyper masculine to them up until that point, they will almost always start talking to me about things like personal feminine things as if I am feminine enough to understand. I dont know how to explain this at all. I've gotten some women that tell me they, "wish they could be boys but not in a trans way". They will start dumping their life experiences onto me when I do not know them too well in the first place. I have been joked around about being a femboy by them or being a sissy boy or having boy pussy. I got called misogynistic for not wanting to use my vagina. I understand its probably because they are comfortable with me now that they know I was born with a woman's body but that really sucks. I want a woman to feel comfortable with me because I earned it not because they just see me as afab. It feels like they immediately revoke my masculinity card just because I am trans. Is this a thing for other guys?