DeviantDread

If you're concerned about your washer, head on over to r/laundry, those guys know their shit.

On top of that, bodymist/sprays/perfume do not neutralize smells, they combine with it.

So if you do smell musty, you'll end up smelling musty with notes of vanilla.

"vermijd fysieke inspanningen"

Reddit tends to jump to "break up/divorce" immediately and I agree about as often as my son actually spontaneously does his homework.

This case though? Leave the asshole. Any decent partner would have either driven you to the airport or gone with you, while telling you you had nothing to do or worry about at home.

No. You are NTA

The snort I snurt at "blowing a tampon like it's soup"!

Hi.

First of all; you should know reddit/the world doesn't take kindly to partners financially "pulling" their partner in life forward. This is in part for good reason, the world is full of scamming, lazy deadbeats who 'll take afvantage of anyone and everyone. The other parts of this are often gender-bias and of course self preservation.

My partner and I just made it through a year of him being unemployed(this was the second year of our relationship.) I took care of my partner in the way I would want my partner to take care of me. I kept him fed, helped pay his bills, food, doctors appointments,... What not. On top of all of that he fell into a massive depression so our relationship on its own had its struggles. We were on the verge of losing sight of us and each other several times, but here we are.

He is now employed. He is crawling out of the black hole he found himself in and now that the dust is settling we can finally look at each other and say "holy shit, we made it".

I personally believe that if you want to have a partner that loves and supports unconditionally, you have to be that partner as well. The only thing you can do here is sit down and have a long, hard look at your relationship. Are your goals alligned? Does he have the ambition and drive to get to a position where he can offer you the same? Does he want to offer you the same? Would he do the same if the roles were reversed?

But most of all; if you do decide to be the financial "head" (for now) you need to consider every cent you spend gone forever. You cannot operate under the assumption you will see any of it again.

It is an investment in a potential future. If your relationship works out and he gets to a position of being self-sufficient, your relationship will be stronger because he knows you have his back.

If the relationship doesn't work out, that money will have led to nothing but what you had in the moment.

Only you can make that call, but don't be discouraged by the nutjobs who claim "a man would never...". Follow your gut, have some solid conversations with your partner and only proceed if you know you won't grow to resent your partner for struggling.