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Hello,

I need to rant and also gain a gain some fresh perspective on how to deal with my relationship with my father from a gospel perspective. This got taken down from a different group so hopefully I can get some insight here.

I always had a solid relationship with my dad. Growing up, he was always a pretty strict parent and as I got into the teenage/more observant years, I saw that he can be quite a difficult man. As he proudly puts it himself, he's a "hard man to love".

Although I am full of my flaws, growing up and especially coming home from serving my mission, I have noticed cracks in our relationship as I developed my own personality and came to voice my opinion more often. He is pretty "old-fashioned" by which I mean he at times says things that I find sexist and ableist (and others forbidden to be mentioned by community standards). For example, he can be pretty bossy with his wife/my mom but he won't do any of the house chores although she works full-time and he only works part-time.

As I went off to college, our views parted ways even more, most of it comes down to politics but I bring it here because I do think he says things that are not in line with the gospel. He speaks against certain religions, races and sexual orientations very strongly. Recently we had a conversation and he derailed and ended up comparing gay marriage to something horrible! I asked what he would do if one of his kids or many grandkids came out and he outright said he couldn't love them any more.

I love him, he is my father. But it's hard seeing the man who joined the church and brought us up very strictly following the gospel, talk scripture and love so little.

I sometimes help him with his social media account that he rushed for business and recently I noticed he follows A LOT of younger women accounts, specifically Asian, and that he DMs them quite regularly. Nothing overly sexual, simply comments on their "looks", their smiles, hair and how they are beautiful. To my horror then, I found that he follows some of my closer friends that he meet only a couple of times and he's been messaging them out of the blue, as in, "Beautiful princess, how is your day? My wife is busy with work so she doesn't have time for me" etc.

This was a drop too much and I don't know what to do. Our relationship was good so far - we were always able to discuss our differences openly and maintained honesty. If I felt strongly about something, I would tell him and vice versa. Most of the times he gets offended and ghosts me for some days but then we get back to talking.

I want to talk to him about this but I don't know how or if it's my place. The worst thing is that my mom does so much. She has been the hard worked and brought all of the kids up. I have so much love and respect for her that this really broke me. He also holds a significant-ish calling jn our ward.

I want to talk to him but I don't know how. I know if I don't talk about it, it will simply boil inside me until I erupt at some point. I also feel horrible because he had a falling out with most of my siblings at some point and I always tried to remain a good daughter and not mix up other people's issues with how I view a person. He only really talks to me and another sibling kind of. I am really struggling with walking the fine line between setting boundaries and not judging right now.

I’m 36F and I’ve been a member my whole life.
I served an amazing mission (2015-2017) and met some incredible people there

Everything declined when I got home. I’m not kidding it was one thing after the other - job loss, sickness, family death - I mean everything.

I moved to the US to attend BYU thinking being in a church centered place would reignite my faith. At this point I was still going to church but I was exhausted (mentally, spiritually and emotionally)

The adjustment to the States was harder than I could manage and I too feel into the worldly ways.
Fast forward to now - I have a child (yes out of wedlock) and I can genuinely not see a clear path back to church.

I felt most fulfilled at church it’s such a big part of my identity. I love the structure and purpose you have as a member.

I feel I’ve been aimlessly kinda drifting on and I know the solution is repairing the relationship with God but how.

I have also fallen on hard times now (financially) and I hate for that to be the reason I return (because I’m low). I had no idea being less active and going back to church would be this hard

So my question is - how do you get back into it?
I mean the literal steps to take because just going to church still feels empty to me

Hey y'all! I'm in a religion class at one of the church schools, and for one of my assignments, I need to share what I learned this week in a forum or blog. I've elected to post here and share a bit about what I wrote and learned about in this week.

This week we studied in Hebrews, and a scripture that stood out to me was Hebrews 8:11-12.

Summarized, it can be put as "If we learn to know the Lord and repent in his name, we can be redeemed and our sins will be remembered no more. Hebrews 8:11-12" I thought that this was an interesting sentiment, specifically the getting to know the Lord part.

First, our sins are not truly forgotten. Then we'd just commit them again. They are no longer a part of us however. They will not hold us back. In fact, they'll do the opposite. Since we remember them, we can learn from them. The second thing I got from this scripture was the method in which we repent. It focused partially on getting to "know the Lord." In essence, this means we get to know not only him, but what he stood for and his methods. This helps us to begin to follow the new, corrected path as we leave behind our sins. As part of the assignment, one question I formed to continue to ponder was, how else might getting to know the Lord help us repent?

I thought this was neat, and there were some interesting thoughts to come out of it. What do y'all think?